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It caused me so much stress at work. Because I had to leave early to take her to appointments, pick her up for something, etc constantly. My coworkers began to resent me. All the constant trying to teach good behaviors and be on my best behavior cause you know, got to set a good example etc gave me anxiety. And her trauma history triggered my issues from my own childhood abuse.
As sad as I was when she left it was such a relief. Such a weight off my shoulders.
What if I had had a child and then realized all these things. Omg. Children deserve good parents who love them and want to be parents. I was told I was a very good parent to her by several people. But I felt like I was drowning at the same time.
Obviously given my age if I was gonna do that again I need to do it soon. But I really really don’t want to.
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There was a bit more but I cut the rest off as not relevant. Turned 38. Still no longer want to crimp my style to be a parent. After all those years of focusing everything on it.